When you get married, you make a promise to another person and enter into a legal arrangement with that person that is binding per Illinois law. If things aren’t going well, it can be difficult to know when to pull up the stakes and move on. These are some of the red flags that your marriage is in trouble.
Top reasons why divorce might be the best option
One of the most obvious reasons to leave a marriage is if there’s physical abuse involved. If one partner is hitting the other, or even if they’re punching walls and throwing objects across the room, this is physical abuse. Threats of physical abuse also can’t be tolerated.
Emotional abuse, such as name-calling, guilt trips, gaslighting and put-downs, is also a good reason to rethink a marriage. If one person is abusing drugs, either illegal, prescribed or legal and widely accessible such as alcohol or marijuana, it’s reasonable for the partner to consider divorce.
When to go to counseling
Some people have mental health issues that make them emotionally unable to sustain a long-term relationship. Additionally, there are some people who are so passive that they aren’t capable of being a partner in a relationship. They won’t take on responsibilities, such as paying bills, taking care of household chores, and participating in conversations with their partner about life responsibilities. Sometimes, a partner’s mental health issues are too great to overcome alone, and a counselor might be able to help.
There are times when you might not be certain how to process your experiences, or you might want to put in some more work before you decide to divorce. Additional issues that may be resolved with counseling include financial infidelity, communication problems and sexual issues.
Unfortunately, there are times when being able to thrive as a person means giving up on your marriage. You might also have extra hurdles to overcome if you have children involved, so you might need to learn about how to work with your ex-spouse when deciding on how to divide parenting time and other responsibilities and privileges to children.