Like many in Illinois, you probably think of alternating weeks as the easiest and least controversial way of equally splitting custodial time between the two parents. However, experts are now beginning to advise that this may not be the best solution as far as the children are concerned. While it may take some effort for both parents to embrace it, an alternate custody schedule may really be what is in the best interests of the children.
Long absences can have psychological impacts on the kids
While it is natural for parents to think of their own convenience when dividing custody time, they need to also consider what works best for the children. One thing that experts have raised is the possibility that the long absences from one parent’s home can create separation anxiety in the children when they are forced to continuously say their goodbyes for longer periods of time. They may also grow distant from one or both parents when they get used to being separated from them for an extended period of time.
Alternating weeks can have logistical challenges
Not only are there the burdens on the children, but there are logistical challenges for the parents involved. They may have some difficulty getting the flexibility from their job that is needed to be the sole parent for their time with the children. Experts are advising that the best way to deal with all of this is to still split time equally while rotating the children between the parents’ homes more often.
When you want this type of custody agreement, it may take some doing to get the other parent to agree since this is not something that would be considered usual. A family law attorney may help you by making suggestions about different types of arrangements. Then, he or she might negotiate with the other parent’s attorney so that both parents can come to an agreement. If there is no agreement, the attorney could persuade the judge that this type of schedule is in the best interests of the children.